Tears ~

For most of us, grief tends to work itself out in tears — tears that come out at times we don’t expect. Sometimes grieving people sense that people around them see their tears as a problem to be solved — that tears must mean they aren’t doing very well with their grief. But it makes sense that the great sorrow of losing someone we love would come out in tears. Tears are not the enemy. Tears do not reflect a lack of faith. Tears are a gift from God that help to wash away the deep pain of loss.
It is a great gift to let grieving people know that they don’t have to be embarrassed by their tears around you — that they are welcome to cry with you. An even greater gift is to shed tears of your own over the loss of the person they love. Your tears reflect the worth of the person who died and assure them that they are not alone in missing that person.I have been in tears for weeks now . I won't be with my son or granddaughter this Christmas . Last night my dear husband took me out for dinner . Everything was perfect , I looked at my meal , and with Christmas music playing " O Holy Night " ...I suddenly burst into tears , I had everything I wanted but the freedom to go for Christmas . This is her 5th Christmas , I have only shared two with her . Memories ,  I can't get  back . WHY ?